Valentine's Day and The Program

"I bet this program is hard on your marriage." This might be one of the silliest statements I have heard to date about doing Noah's program. The one my husband finds most offensive is, "You're lucky your husband stuck around after having a special needs child." While I have heard that families with special needs children have a higher divorce rate, I haven't really seen that to be true. In fact, I can't think of a single family with special needs kids that are divorced -- not saying that it doesn't happen -- I just haven't seen it.

Now I do have a wonderful, loving, and understanding husband. He believes in me, and he adores his children -- the special needs part isn't a factor in that at all.

The simple truth is that doing this program is good for our marriage and our family. We aren't perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but doing the program has given us a goal to work toward as a family. It has given us a better understanding of one another and a better understanding of our children. And it gives us perspective on what is really important in our lives and in our relationship.

So we don't have the perfect marriage (does anyone?!), but after eight years of doing Noah's program and ten years of marriage, I can say that we are closer to each other and we love each other more than ever (yes, it is a bit sappy, but very true).